I want to journal some of my thoughts of the last few days for my own memory. Anyone who has had experience with a tempered 3 year old--feel free to email me with any helpful suggestions. Anyone who thinks that what I am about to write is due to Nora eating only sugar is sadly mistaken because I can barely get her to eat anything, let alone sugar.
My well-behaved little lady has suddenly become the world's greatest tantrum thrower. I have no idea what triggered this week from the depths, but I do know that I'm at my wit's end. She wakes up hateful, she throws a fit immediately and ends up in a crying rage, she is biting herself, throwing herself around and screaming uncontrollably. This has basically lasted for 4 days.
Nothing has changed or occurred in our lives to trigger something so dramatic. She is just having meltdown after meltdown. When I say tantrum, I should make it clear that I mean "extreme" tantrum.
Granted, we have been cooped up in this house for quite some time due to the freezing weather and all of us being sick. I know that sitting here day in and day out can take a toll on anyone, but it is just ridiculous. I have taken the approach of remaining calm, for the most part. However, how do you stare at a screaming child who will not calm down long enough to listen to a word you say and remain calm? You walk away. Or I do. Alot. And when she bites herself, I let her. I stopped her at first, but she understands that it causes pain and she does it anyway. Why??
My mom always said that I started throwing terrible fits at 3. I always prayed against it in my children. I understand alot of it is normal. She doesnt know how to process her anger completely and etc. But she has always thrived on being obedient and well behaved. She loves pleasing us with her behavior. And in her good moments over the last few days, she still does. But in her off moments, life seems unpredictable.
I suddenly feel so disconnected from her. How do I even begin disciplining or correcting the behavior when I don't understand the root of it? How do I manage to remain calm and goal-centered when the goal is to simply calm her down and she wants nothing of it. I believe alot of it is for attention, but then again, I'm just not so sure.
For instance, she sat in her closet for close to an hour today and was content just being there. When I walked in to try talking to her again, she would scream "Get out of here! Get out!" and began another crying spell that lasted another 25 minutes. It's just bizarre.
So I'm trying to plug through these long winter days. Figure out how we can create things to do that will keep my children focused and entertained without losing their minds. Or mine.
And I might be close.
I have had a tension headache since Saturday. And now I'm beginning to think I know why.
Do your kids throw fits? When did they start?
How do you deal with them?
We're supposed to get another 5-7 inches of snow tomorrow.
Pray for us:)