Friday, March 26, 2010

How do you bless your husband?

My friend, Tiffany, wrote a post yesterday detailing ways in which she blesses her husband. She ended with the question, "How you do bless your husband?"

I thought about it alot and decided to write a post of my own. Because much like Tiffany, this blog is for me to write down and remember the everyday moments with my children. But I cherish, beyond words, being a wife to my best friend. This season of our life is challenging to us and yet I feel like we are constantly coming through each obstacle and each battle with a stronger reverence for one another and for the Lord. We have found ways to bind together and cling to the love that we have always had for each other.
I have to admit that there are days when I am not the ideal wife. [shocker, I know.]
I am needy, bossy, selfish, arrogant and just plain bratty. I have always been open to everyone, and mostly my husband, about the challenge that I face daily trying to submit and sometimes even listen to him. It is a struggle for me and goes against every part of my personality to "back down" to him, or "give in" to him. I am faulted and flawed and ashamed of my behavior on many occasions. But although I struggle with it, I am in constant prayer about it. Seeking the Lord for guidance as to how I can support and bless this man while learning to be the Godly wife that he needs me to be.
Now, you would truly have to ask him if he believes these things are true, but first and foremost I believe that I bless my husband daily by supporting him in every life choice he makes. I may feel uneasy about it, or disagree with it at first-but ultimately I support him and even encourage him in his journey.
I send him simple texts through the day to encourage him or just to let him know I'm thinking of him. He doesnt always have time to talk, but I truly do miss him. Rather than call and 'vent' about my day with the kids, I choose to text a quick "I miss you..." or "Hope your day is good..."

Very rarely is there not some sort of goody in our house that I have made. I do this, not only for my husband, but for everyone. Cookies, brownies, cupcakes, pies, or cakes are usually always waiting for him at some point in the week. I know he appreciates it because he tells me so (and eats them all!)

Many days I stay in my PJ's, especially through the winter. I sport make-up from the night before and my hair is a mess. But there are plenty of days when I purpose myself to get ready for my husband so that when he comes home at the end of the day, he comes home to a wife that is pleasing to look at. I try to shave, do my hair and make-up, put on a clean T-shirt and spritz some perfume. He always mentions it, so I assume it blesses him.

I support his tattoo obsession...
...and even design them for him!

I stand beside him during tough times spiritually.

I pray for him both out loud and silently.

I (try to always) encourage him in his gift of guitar playing. I am so blessed that he shares this gift with us, his family, and although I feel like it takes up alot of his time, I try my hardest to not quench his thirst for this calling God has given him.
I focus [alot] of time on keeping a clean house for my husband. One that, at the end of the day, he can retreat to and feel at ease in. Although the kids may be screaming, I may be irritable and the madness may feel least I know that he can count on the one constant of our 'home' to feel peaceful. Candles burning, fresh food baking, sweeper ran, shelves dusted, furniture in order, and floors swept. I take such awesome pride in this part of blessing my husband.
I write and hang scripture in different places throughout our home for all of us to see. I pray it blesses him as he begins each day...or ends it.

I try to remain consistent in the way he would have us discipline and train our children.
I often fall short, but I do try.

I purpose to teach our children to always respect their father. For Braden to always listen to him and for Nora to always kiss and hug him--no matter what.

I take pictures of the kids throughout the day to show him when he gets home.

I blog.
This may not seem like it is for him, but so much of it is. At the end of the day, with all the chaos around us, we sometimes don't have a moment to share the funny things said, the discouraging moments or the way I'm truly feeling. After writing I'll often say, "you should read my blog's a good post." He does, and I know he appreciates it.
I smile at him. Alot.

I flirt with him and make him laugh. Alot.

I set up Bible devotions for us to read. Sometimes together. Sometimes separate.

I handle our finances with great pride and dignity. He works extremely hard for that which we are blessed with and I work very hard to keep everything in order. I pay the bills, balance the checkbook and try desperately to sneak in a small gift for him (even if it's just a magazine) every now and then to show him my appreciation for all he does.

I thank him almost daily for working so I don't have to.

I express my great "respect" for him as a husband and a dad.
Respect is much different than love and although I love him deeply, my respect for him runs just as deep. I feel as if he needs to hear that as much or even more than "I love you." I can show him I love him, but hearing that I respect him is vital. Even the Bible tells us that this is how a man is made up--to feel and acknowledge the respect of his wife.
Being a wife is so important to me. I love this marriage relationship that the Lord gave to us. It is intimate, special and yet challenging.
I desire to bless my husband in new ways everyday, but the most important way that I can truly bless him, I believe, is just by being the woman that he fell in love with, seeking the Lord in all I do, loving and supporting him and being honest with him. If I can do all of those things then I know at the end of the day, he will be blessed because I will have stayed true to my role as his wife; his best friend.

So now I'm asking you--
How do you bless your husband?
Feel free to just comment if you don't want to do a whole post.
I'd love to hear how your marriage thrives as you purpose to bless your guy!


Rachel said...

I think I'll make a post on this today as well!

I would like to note that the flexing picture of Daniel is taken at my house in North Carolina, and for that, I am so sad because it takes me back to a time where we were all together. Correct me if Im wrong but this was yet another instance where we drug your child into the tattoo parlor. (and you were also WITH child weren't you??) haha. Miss those moments so much!

Tiffany said...

Oh, Ramee, it was such a blessing for me to read how you bless your husband. Your post made me wish I had gone in to more details on my post! This was lovely. Your children will rise up and call you blessed as they grow up watching you bless their daddy.

Chrissy♥ said...

Awesome post. Really makes me step back and try and think of my daily relations ship and how I am blessed and do the same to others. Thank you. Your words are so beautiful and lovely!