Monday, April 12, 2010

Momentous Monday.

Ok, for some reason I cannot post the button for "Momentous Monday." It's a new blog hop started by my dear bloggy friend, Tiffany. To visit her site and check out the hop, go here:

This week was a rough week for me. I must admit that reading other mom's blogs sometimes frustrates me. I love my children so much and yet there are days that are so difficult. I have always been honest about the hard days as well as the joyful moments. But I feel so guilty after reading other blogs of moms who portray their everyday as simple, joyful and wonderful--always. I know it's not reality. But it is still hard. And it makes me feel like I fall short.

There were many moments this week that were wonderful, of course. There are always moments that I am thankful for. The Lord brings them in strong, like a wave that I can feel rushing over me. And then, of course, there were moments when the kids were screaming, the dog was pooping on the floor, binky's were getting eaten by the same dog, the house was a mess, my husband was grouchy, my body was achy and things were just plain messy.
And that is ok too.
It's all ok, because it is what it is.
I hope when you all come here, you understand that you're doing great. We all have those days. And I am having them too. You can love your kids and feel frustrated with them at the same time. The two can go hand in hand and there is no shame in that!

One of my favorite moments this week came yesterday. I have been longing so much for Daniel to just look at me and say that I look pretty. He often does, but this week I could feel myself needing his attention and affection more. Yesterday was such a good day. I wasn't feeling well and we had to go to a meeting at church. It was nice just to spend a little time together. After our meeting we took the kids out to my parents house. They played on the farm and enjoyed just being outside. Daniel went and spent time with Jake and I sat and talked to my mom. I love evenings on the farm, just talking and spending time together. Every now and then, Daniel would emerge from what he was doing just to hug or kiss me. He purposed to show me attention and I purposed to appreciate it.

Many times he kisses me, hugs me, or compliments me and I'm far too busy to appreciate that moment with him. This was much different for me, though. I was thankful for him taking the time to love me. He told me how nice it was to kiss me and that I looked beautiful. He held my hand and laughed with me. I love that connection with him because in the shuffle of the madness, it sometimes gets lost. I want to make it a point to always center ourselves around our Lord and each other to make sure we are being the best we can be for our kids. These moments with him were momentous in my mind and I will cherish them for days to come...


Rachel @ Finding Joy said...

That was a very sweet post. Thank you so much for sharing.

I agree about not comparing ourselves to what we read on blogs. It's all too easy to think we fall short...but remember we all have those good and bad days.

I found you through the Momentous Monday blogroll...I'm glad I did!

God's blessings to you and your family.

Linda said...

I am so glad that your hubby made you feel special and loved! We woman sure need to feel that way don't we? And I am 59 years old and still like to know that my husband loves me and thinks I look pretty.

Chaos strikes often in homes with small children...and you are so honest to post about those times. Hang in there lessens as they get older. (:>)

Have A Momentous Monday!

Linda @ Truthful Tidbits

Sugarplum Creations Blog said...

This is so sweet. I love those moments that my husband makes me feel special. Sometimes that love and kindness can get a little lost in the everyday chaos. I love when it shines through :)

Happy MM! :)

Tiffany said...

Oh, Ramee - I just love you, and I love your transparency. It was one of the things that drew me to your blog in the first place. I am working on it - I really am. It is such a hard balance for me, because it is the happy moments of this period in our life that I want to remember and cherish. But I don't want to be fake either.
I love that your moment was with your husband - so beautiful. I hope this week God blesses you with an abundance of cherished moments! Thank you so much for joining Momentous Monday. It wouldn't have been the same without you!

Anonymous said...

If we were perfect mommies we wouldn't need our Savior! I was convicted about this recently that people may think I don't struggle because of the things I put on my blog. I so desire to be a women of integrity and I hope that a different message isn't sent! I had the same problem last week as you, my sweet otherwise happy baby is screaming snotty mess! But the Lord is good and gave me many moments to cherish! I just need extra charging throughout my days!
Thanks for this great post girl. I am married to a redhead and hope to have one soon, your children are beautiful!